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Would You Like To Meet Females?
You know, guys ask me about " finding women " and "how to meet women " and similar things all the time .
But the reality of the matter for all of these types of questions is there is no "dating guru" that can give you any better recommendations than good old "experience".
But by now you are saying "but how do I get experience when I don't know where to go or how to attract women?"
You get experience any way you can. Go wherever there are lots of women and just practice. Don't worry if you are perfect. Just practice and get the experience yourself. In the end you will learn on your own and you will start getting dates. Yes that's right - no matter how unattractive, goofy, poor or old you are. If you just practice you will start getting dates.
And when you start getting dates. Then date, date, date, date, date!
It is known as "multi" or serial dating.
I guess I should elucidate. I am not a cheater and don't believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sensibly selecting a partner.
And I am not talking about individuals who multiple or serial date their entire lives. Obviously those people have some major relationship problems.
But, serial dating applied inside the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the reverse. Serial dating done to get a better understanding of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you are fond of, and what you like, and what kinds of individuals like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.
Do you remember what good old mom and dad use to say to you when you were a teenager?
They said: "Don't get serious with one person, you need to date and meet a lot of girls/guys."¯
Now believe it or not, this teenage advice can also be very good advice for adults.
Most of us adults never really followed good old mom and dad's advice. We alternatively met someone we kind of liked and connected with them and ignored the rest.
Sort of like, we got together with the first acceptable person who showed some real interest in us.
Regrettably, there is a big difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also unfortunately most people normally continue this trend of hooking up with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into maturity.
We call this "settling".
We call this "compromising".
We call this all sorts of names years later when we realize we aren't happy.
You see there are many different sorts of people in the world and, believe it or not, there is someone for everyone. But the problem is you may have to meet a heck of a lot of people to find that one someone.
Another problem is that many people are so confused about life and relationships and people, they don't really have any idea of what kind of personality is a good match for them. They base their ideals off of the Hollywood imagery of what they think they want.
The cure is simple. When you date and meet lots of people, sooner or later, you figure it out for yourself. It's a natural process. You get comfortable with people, you realize that everyone is different, and that different types of people like different types of people. Eventually you figure out what kind of person you are and what kind of people you get along with best.
And believe it or not, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever successfully done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out and about and got a lot of experience.
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