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How To Speak To Any Woman, Anytime, Anywhere Effectively.
When we speak about the topics of approaching women, or how to approach women, we invariably come up with the skill of conversation being part of the skill of how to approach women effectively.
I've always been complimented at my ability to start conversation with anybody at any time about any subject - even when there is supposedly "nothing to talk about". It's a skill I have and in this piece of writing I will tell you the SIMPLE magic to my success.
The best way to spark a conversation is to ask questions. Too simple? Well, let me explain.
What do you ask questions regarding?
Well, I always just ask questions about something I want to know. It differs from person to person. But usually if I am meeting someone new I might ask questions like "Do you have brothers and sisters?" "Do you get along with your parents?" "Do you have a lot of pals?"
Usually a person talks for a while when answering and that provides you more data to ask even more questions about. Sometimes I will make a comment if it is correct or if they ask me a question in answering to my question I just answer their question then ask them another one of my questions.
The challenging times are when people merely give you "yes" and "no" type answers. That doesn't leave much to work off of.
When I think the situation is awkward or the person isn't conversing much (like the above "yes" and "no" answers), then I talk about how annoying the situation is. Say something like "This is awful. I feel so awkward. I don't know what to speak. Do you feel uneasy too?"
Normally you can get a little discussion going on that topic and ease a lot of tension just by admitting that you feel awkward and don't know what to speak about. Then proceed to a question like "Ok, let's see what we can talk about. What are your pursuits? Do you have any hobbies?"
Another questioning technique is to look at what a person puts their attention on and talk about or ask questions about that. So, for example, if you are in a cafe and the person you are dating isn't speaking much, just looking at the menu, you might say "Kind of an interesting menu. What looks good to you?" That might trigger a conversation about food items or restaurants and menus, etc.
This approach is also good for meeting strangers. If you are in a grocery store next to some one attractive who is looking at "lamb chops" you might say: "I see you are desirous about the lamb chops. Do you know an excellent way to cook them, I've always wanted to try them, but actually don't know how to cook them."
Remember also that you are not always going to connect with everyone you meet. So if you try, try, and look for a decent discussion going and it doesn't take place then this is probably not the best person for you.
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